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The Fading Moral Values in children. Whom to blame?????????

It’s good that justice has prevailed though after a long wait of 5 years in Nirbhaya’s case. The incident had rocked the nation; the trial should have been fast track.  But the question arises are stringent laws enough or society should also pitch in, to fight the evil through inculcating moral values which are fading away with each passing day.Moral Values

An increase in juvenile crime rate, pregnancy in the adolescent masses, embezzlement, abuse and self annihilation are the result of a degradation of moral values in the new generation.Moral Values

Children are a parent’s most valuable asset and every parent dreams about making their children into responsible and amazing children. Besides giving good education imparting moral values is extremely important.  The need of an hour is to acknowledge the magnitude of imparting good values in children so that they can differentiate between right and wrong. Here are the few ways I feel how parents can help their children to achieve Moral Values:

Teach moral values by being their role models: There are little eyes upon you and they are watching night and day. There are little ears that quickly take in every word you say. There are little hands all eager to do everything you do. And the little child who is dreaming of the day he will be like you. Set an example by following what you want your children to follow. Be honest if you want them to be honest. As they grow the child’s power to grasp abstract concept also grows. Therefore their understanding of moral value increases as well. They become keen observers and do exactly what their parents do. So be careful in every act of your behavior while maintaining social and personal relationship.

Spend time with children: Of course this is often easier said than done. Teaching values takes time- a scarce commodity for many parents today. “Our increasingly competitive economy is creating an environment where mom and dad are spending longer hours at work and fewer hours with their children,” observes Gary hill, Ph.d director of clinical services at the family institute at north western university. As a result peer pressure, internet, movies etc are  making greater effect on children shaping their perspectives more than ever before. What a parent is to do? You need to make time to be with your kids and make the time you have. Talk with them about right or wrong these day to day activities etc. use everyday experiences as springboard for conversation.

Hold your children accountable for their mistakes– Your children may get themselves into trouble now and then, for instance they might break the neighbors’ window playing baseball or cricket, perform poorly on job and get fired or disobey school rules and receive a detention. You may be tempted to rush in and immediately try to make things better for them by going to principal and asking them to take away the detent ion or paying for the broken window yourself, but don’t; if you rescue your children every time they make a mistake they won’t like responsibility for their actions they need to know that bad choices result in an unpleasant consequences.

Don’t let children take easy way out of challenges- Along the same line, you should monitor that your children finish projects they start, even if their endeavor get tough, tiring or mundane. Suppose your child begs to sign up for skating and then one wants to quit after two weeks of  practice perhaps your daughter signs up gymnastic class but a week later she wants to drop it when she discovers how much the teacher expects students to work and achieve. For the most part you should not let your children get out of the commitment. If your kids committed to doing something they need to follow through on that. You don’t want them to become quitters. Encourage them to finish the projects they start. In the process they will develop perseverance and responsibility.  

Monitor TV / mobile/ internet viewing- When it comes to teaching your children values there will be a lot less “unlearning” that needs to be done if you minimize their exposure to wrong ideas in the first place. Granted, you can’t shelter them from everything but you can and you should limit their exposure to TV/ internet. Consider putting computer only in area where the whole family congregates together.  You don’t want your kids surfing the web in their bed room where you can’t monitor. Same case with the TV. So, COVIEWING as this often referred to can be very effective way to filter what kind of ideas are coming into your home and what values your kids are being exposed to. After you have watched a TV show, talk t any your children about what you have just saw. Were there moral lessons to be gleaned?

The bottom line is that you need to communicate with your children. Talk about what they did right what they did wrong, how to make better   moral decisions, what character traits god wants to see in us, and choices in your own life.  Granted, it takes time to have these kinds of conservations but you will find the results worth the investment.

 Don’t let yourself get so busy that you stop having real conservation with your kids. It sounds cliché   but children do grow up very fast. Depending on their age you may have them living in your home for just 10-15 years. You need to use the time you have with your kids effectively. So I conclude by saying- “Make sure you built time into your schedule for consistent quality, face time with your kids- while they are still kids”.

Also read Dr. Harleen Kaurs other articleshttp://drharleenkaur.com/the-qualities-or-attributes-of-a-good-teacher/ http://drharleenkaur.com/toka-sahib-gurudwara/ http://drharleenkaur.com/tips-power-dressing-working-women/